Monday, May 31, 2010

Stress Fractures

So... I told you all about the things we did in Memphis and Bristol, but I didn't tell you what the fall out from that was. I have a stress fracture in my foot. It hurts quite a bit right now, but that is totally my own fault. I should stay off of it for a number of weeks. Instead after about three days I got so stir crazy and concerned about the state of my house that I had to get up and do SOMETHING! Ugh! Unfortunately I have been doing, probably, too much because the throbbing is as powerful as it ever was. Poor foot. The really funny thing is that limping as I have been has caused me to use some muscles that are usually not utilized. So now I am limping from pain in my foot and trying to not strain those muscles. Funny, ehh?

Do you know how you get a stress fracture? Stress fractures are the result of repeated pounding. They occur most often when the muscles that are around the bone (set there to protect the bone) get fatigued and can not properly protect the bone. And lastly, poor support from your footwear can increase the likelihood of a stress fracture. So, if you take out the mention of the foot, stress fractures are caused by repeated strain exacerbated by fatigue and a lack of support.

When it is put that way, it makes me think of parts of life. I think sometimes I get stress fractures in my life. Just like my choice of foot wear tends to provide very little support, my companions often lend very little support and I am often scared of asking for more support. Add to that the sheer exhaustion that is a result of working 20 hours a day/ 7 days a week and you have a great start to a stress fracture. All that is required is something to just hit me and hit me and hit me. And for whatever reason, life is like that. There is a reason that the saying "when it rains, it pours" is so well known. When something goes bad, it goes bad in multiples. And, it seems to me, that leads you straight to that stress fracture. It might not be any one thing that really hurts. It might not even be two things that causes the pain. It is the constant pounding of disappointments, criticisms and/or rejection that causes the pain. And just like I can not tell you just what step caused the break in my foot, I can not tell you for sure what event caused any of my life stress fractures. All I can know for sure is they are there. Stress fractures heal, but they leave a weak spot, sure to rebreak... unless you find some good support and rest!

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

There was a man...

A long time ago I was blessed. There was a man who held my hand, a man who matched my stride. We walked side by side. I was neither leading the way nor being pulled behind. We could talk to each other. We did talk to each other. When the world got scary he would hold me close. When I was enveloped in pain, when I thought I would break he held me in his arms. He was so very safe. I felt like his arms could protect me from anything. His arms did protect me. He was my blessing. He may not have been what the other women in the world dreamed of, but he was a dream come true for me.

And I miss him. Every single day, I miss him! I miss that safety. I miss the conversations. I miss the warmth of his hands, his arms, his lips. Someday I hope he will be here with me again. There was a man and someday, I pray, he will return!

Monday, May 24, 2010

Bristol Bruhaha

We are home! Home from Memphis, home from the conference, home from Bristol, home from family, home from a wedding, HOME!!!! Thank the good Lord, we are home! We had a good time in Bristol but it is nice to not have to go out if we get hungry, worry about running out of clean clothes, have cleaning staff knocking at the door, share a bedroom with my little man, worry about breaking things, etc. There are so many things that change when you are living out of hotels and so I am happy to be home!

The wedding went really well. The bride and the groom both felt like nothing went wrong, so I guess that means it definitely went well. They both looked so happy to be married. I genuinely hope they stay happy to be married. They are currently on a cruise for their honeymoon so I imagine they will stay happy to be married for at least that week! Haha! That said, their priest specifically mentioned during the ceremony that they shouldn't kill each other during the honeymoon. And I don't think he meant death from exhaustion! ;D It struck me as an odd thing for him to say but I am told that it has been said before! I think I would have raspberried my officiant had he said something like that!

We saw tons of family, and no big drama occurred. I can't tell you how happy that makes me. I hate the amount of drama that can pop up around family. Anyone have a theory as to how that happens? I wish I knew. I also wish I knew how they kept the drama away...

Hubby and I managed to go on a date after the wedding. The in-laws took little man for the evening to let us have some little man free time, and the reception was pretty short so we went on a date! It is so rare an event that I really want to say it again! We went on a date! We were totally unoriginal and went to see a movie. What can I say? When you get a max of three dates a year you decide that a movie that doesn't have kids bouncing around during it is a great date! We saw "Letters to Juliet" and both enjoyed it. It was incredibly sweet and left us talking about our relationship when we walked out.

We decided we have a lot to work on (what marriage doesn't) but that the important thing is that we want to be together. When is totally focused on work 24/7 I want him to be here with me. When I have had to leave to take care of things, he wants me with him. It seems like it should go without saying but after watching a lot of marriages I can say with conviction that it is not always the case in marriages.

Anyway, I guess this post has been random enough. Maybe tomorrow I can stay a little more on track!

Friday, May 21, 2010

Memphis Memories- Day 3

I should have written this yesterday but we had to be out of the room by 11 am and there weren't any memories at that point! Haha! Add to that the drive time getting home and I was just too tired. So, now I am going to try to stretch my brain to 24 hours ago. Ouch!

I thought I was going to give my body more of a rest yesterday, but I was wrong. First little man and I went to see the Peabody Ducks march in. Of course, they more run and than march but it was still cute. Four ducks went whizzing by us and then, almost 20 seconds later, the last duck made her beeline for the fountain. I don't know why she was so late on the uptake but it was pretty cute. I didn't get a single picture of the duck march because there was this woman who just kept pushing me. I love my camera but it is not equipped to handle a six inch jerk every half a second! Poor camera! After that I decided that we would wait for the crowd to dissipate before I tried to get pictures of little man with the ducks. While waiting, he started in with how he was soooo thirsty and hungry. I looked around and, other than going to the steakhouse, there was only a bar. So, I obviously told him no way was he getting a drink. It was kind of funny to try to explain to him why he couldn't have a mimosa like the lady at the bar. To him it was just a glass of orange juice! Then a lady that worked there heard our discussion and convinced the bartender to give little man a drink of plain ole orange juice. I am still thankful for that! That one act of kindness made the Peabody hotel a million times nicer than any marble stairs could make it! After that we took a few pictures and I let little man pick out a tiny rubber duck to remember the experience by and we headed out the door.

Our next stop was about nine blocks away if I had been reading the map instead of trying to go off my memory. I knew I should stop and get out the map but we were being kind of chased by a schizophrenic woman chanting things about the fat woman in the blue shirt and the little boy who talks a lot. Considering the fact that she was right behind me, I was wearing a blue shirt and my little man never shuts his mouth- I was a little uncomfortable. I kept looking at the next door I could duck inside if her rantings turned to violence. And then she just decided to go elsewhere. Thank the good Lord! By that time I was all the way at the water front and a block too far that direction. We still made it, it was just closer to 12 blocks than 9! I am just thankful that little man never got frightened. He was so focused on the pyramid that he couldn't see anything else around him! It was really funny and it made me almost take him there instead of mud island but I had no idea what was going on there that day or how much it would cost!

Like I said, we did eventually make it to Mud Island. I had never been before so it was a first for both of us. I didn't spring for the full tour and I kind of wish I had. It was $4 a person, no matter the age, for a monorail ticket or $10 for the full package for those over 5 years old. At the time it didn't occur to me that that meant for $2 more than what I paid for the monorail tickets we could both have gone to the museum. Oh well, live and learn. Little man had a great time anyway. He walked through the riverbed pretending to be a huge monster and then he played in the fountain. He actually fell in the fountain too so he was totally drenched. He was so cute about it. When he stood up he looked at me and said, "Mom, now there is water in my under wear!" The space between under and wear is on purpose by the way- he says it like it is too totally different words! After playing for a while and having some nachos and popcorn for a completely unhealthy lunch he started to get a little cold. I was cold myself and I wasn't wet! So I got him a dry shirt and we made our way back to the monorail.

I figured I could get one more memory shoved in to the day, and save my feet a bit so we took a trolley part of the way back to the hotel. Little man was so excited about it- and it cost me a whopping $1! Crazy, eh? We got back to the hotel an hour earlier than I thought would be OK for the hubby but he was let out earlier than I thought he would be. It worked out great! We loaded up and headed home to rest. Well, we sort of get to rest. We will be leaving for a wedding in about an hour and half... We will have been home for 20 hours!

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Memphis Memories- Day 2

Day 2 in the state's largest city has been an adventure. I, once again, got lost on the way to the zoo. I have been to the Memphis zoo something like 5 times. Once I got so lost that I got there at closing time, when my aim had been about an hour after opening. Another time I was lost for three hours trying to get there. I have to say, in my defense, that it is always a case of missing signs. Today was no different. This time the sign on the interstate was there but the signs to turn on the side roads was not. I guess that means that I should pat myself on the back for getting there within an hour.

The zoo is so much bigger than it was the last time I went. They have opened an amazing new area called Tetons trail. Just a note to the other parents out there- if you come to the zoo now be sure to bring a change of clothes for the kids as they have an awful lot of places for water play now. There is a geyser type water fountain that little man just adored! The grisly bear area is so wonderful. There are three different areas to see the bears. They were playing with each other and actually running in to the glass separator. The Memphis zoo has a ton of animals and it was really a great zoo. There are a few areas that could improve. I know I am spoiled by the Nashville zoo's playground but the one here in Memphis was rather pathetic. Additionally, there were at least ten schools that were there today and the zoo still did not open up it's ride area. That kind of threw me for a loop. They also chose to not open a some of their restaurants and the ones that were open were busy enough that I waited in a twenty minute line to place my order. My last negative thoughts concern the decorations. Some areas were really over decorated. Some areas were a a vast expanse of nothing. I would love to see a nice happy medium. I have a feeling that the expanses are there because they plan to open three or four new "lands" it just would have been nice to not have such a long walk with nothing to look at! Overall, I have to say it was a really nice zoo.

It only took me 12 minutes to get back to the hotel. I am pretty good at getting where I am going once I know just where I am going! We ended up picking up dinner from BK to save a little dough but I was happy to discover that the workers had genuine Tennessee friendliness! Overall, it was a very lovely day!

Memphis Memories Day 1

We have ventured out to Memphis for a few days. Hubby has a conference to go to so little man and I tagged along to utilize his hotel room. We only got here a few hours ago but I already have noticed so many things!

Our Hotel- First I should say it is nice. The bed in comfy, the soap doesn't dry me out and the TV is HD. But then... well, the ceiling is gross as are the carpets, the toilet runs all the time and the pool is closed. They are currently renovating so the furniture doesn't go together at all. I am not talking about matching, but about general style. I have to admit I am just happy to feel kind of safe here because....

Memphis- is just as weird and scary as I remember it. One minute you are in an area with a seminary and mansions and the next you can't see any grass through the trash. The roads are completely crazy! The interstate has an exit to stay on the interstate.... umm what? Wouldn't the exit be for the other roads? At one point they had blue and purple neon lights under the overpass and you couldn't tell where there was a road at all. Scary!

Kooki Canuck- The sandwhich I split with little man was pretty good. The fries were a big blob of tastelessness. And the service stunk. It took forever to get a table with two groups of 20 getting seated before my group of two. While I understand the one group had a reservation they only had a reservation for 15 and they had to find an extra table to make it 20. Guess whose table that was? It then took 45 minutes for a single sandwhich to come out. It took 10 minutes for little man to get his drink while mine came after about 5 minutes. I felt bad for him. :( My total was $9.06 so I put out $20.06 and when the waiter came around he looked at me expectantly and asked if I wanted any change. Umm yeah- of course I want change! I am not going to tip you 110%! I do have to say that the animal heads on the wall made for some really funny conversations with little man! It was the best part of the meal!

Tomorrow we are planning to hit the zoo. We are going to use our home zoo memebership to get in at a reduced rate. Little man is really looking forward to the pandas and I can't wait to see his face when he sees the komodo dragons. I am praying for a really great day. I am expecting a really great day! I'll let you know how it goes!

Saturday, May 15, 2010

I love my town...

Ahhh- I am home. I wasn't too far away, but it was a whole other world attitude wise. I live in one of the largest cities in my state. And yet, my city (because it is now my city!) prides itself in maintaining it's small town attitude. My town is friendly. My town is helpful. My town takes care of itself and it's neighbors. We might be a larger area, but we don't feel the need to act like one.

I was actually in a smaller town tonight than my town, and it felt as cold as the largest city I have ever been to. No one cared about anyone else. In fact, there was rudeness all around. I was jostled and shoved all over the place. What kind of idiot tries to push around a fat woman I don't know, but the fact that I could squish them didn't stop them! I ended up so frustrated with this one woman that I really wanted to assume a sumo wrestler pose and make her flat like a pancake (or as my little guy says, a pancake bug!) Can't you just see me- stomp, stomp, stomp.... you not block whole aisle just to be mean. Scowl, growl and squint.... pound, pound, pound.... oh she left spot on ground. Oh well!

I can joke about people's rudeness all day long but, in the end, it does one thing for me. It reminds me how much I love my town!

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Ode to Pinky!

Today we lost a dear pet. She had already lived twice her life expectancy and yet, we all feel she died to soon. She was patient, gentle and forgiving. She was a better pet than I ever expected. She was kind to Jacob, despite all the horrible things he did to her (unintentionally, of course) and even handled life without her best friend for quite a while. I never thought I would care about her the way I do, after all she was just a mouse.

Yes, you read that right. I am writing this about a mouse. The kind of creature that people set out a multitude of traps and poisons for. The kind of creature that makes people scream for no reason. Even in a cage she scared people. People would refuse to check on our cats when we went on vacation if Pinky was in the house. They would cringe at the sight of her, and yet, I stand by what I said before. Pinky was amazing.

Good bye sweet girl. We all miss you!

Monday, May 10, 2010

It's been forever!

OOops! It has been forever and a day since I last posted though I have been writing them in my head. It seems like a post occurs to me a million times a day, but when my little guy has gone to sleep and I can finally post without him in my ear I suddenly have my husband in my ear. Anyway, I am sure that some of the posts will still be written over the next few days but the post I want to write today must be written today or wait for a year. I choose today! It means I will be postponing posts about floods, family, car trips, pets and customer service.

Let me start by painting a picture for you. It starts with a stressed out mother of three kids. She has a husband but really, it is mom that makes the family function. There is only one day a year that people expect anyone to make ye ole mom feel appreciated. Husband and kids know that a great way to help mom on that day would be to keep her from having to cook for them. But Dad doesn't cook and the kids are too young.... hmmm, where should we take mom? Then the answer comes to them on the radio- Red Robin! Ahh yes, Red Robin what man and his kids would turn down a burger? Sounds great! But wait, Dad thinks, what if Mom doesn't want a burger for her special day? No problem because the radio just mentioned that Mom should be getting a salad! Woohoo! Stressed out Mom will be so happy! She won't feel like Dad and kids are calling her fat when she is told to get a salad while everyone else gets a burger and fries. No way! But just in case, Dad thinks, maybe he should have a back up plan. But he still can't figure out what that back up should be- no worries! The answer just arrived in Dad's inbox! Chuck E Cheese! Yes! That is just what Mom would love! She would just be overjoyed to get to go somewhere where half the other parents don't watch their kids at all. Mom needs more yelling, more screaming and more worries about her children breaking things. Ahhh... what a dream! What a dream!

Sounds like horrible things to say or do to Mom on that one precious day, doesn't it? And yet, I really did hear an ad just like that and get an email advocating Chuck E Cheese for Mother's day! All I could do was laugh. I mean really, some restaurants should just accept that they are not going to have increased attendance for Mother's Day and some just need to figure out that if Mom wants a salad she will pick one. That ad did nothing more than increase Dad's chances of inserting his foot in his mouth when trying to be sweet. Poor guy! I hope that no man ended up in trouble for suggesting a salad to his darling wife at a burger joint! My prayer is that the mother's of the world felt genuinely appreciated today, and perhaps can feel appreciated in the days to come!